Learning To Listen To Stop Male Suicide

The Stop Male Suicide project is committed to making it easier for everyone who cares about preventing male suicide to take action that makes a difference.

One commonly held belief about the causes of male suicide is that ‘men don’t talk’. In our experience men do talk when people listen, which is why we’ve made ‘learning to listen to men’ one of the key objectives of the Stop Male Suicide project.

Whatever the collective message that men are communicating through their high suicide rates is, maybe the reason we’re not hearing it, is not because men won’t talk but because we don’t know how to listen to men.

What if, collectively developing our listening skills, and in particular changing the way we all ‘listen to men’, could help us to Stop Male Suicide? With this possibility in mind, we’re committed to spreading awareness of the fact that listening is a skill that everyone can continually develop and improve.


To support this activity, we are working on the development of new training called Learning To Listen To Stop Male Suicide which will cover:

  • The art of self-listening, how to learn to listen to yourself as a prelude to listening to others
  • Learning to listen to others, with a particular focus on learning how to listen to men
  • Learning to listen through and from different listening filters and to and from different listening positions
  • Learning to identify the unconscious gender filters that shape the way you listen to men
  • Learning to listen from higher perspectives such as universal compassion, world peace and unconditional love.

If you’d like to register your interest in attending a training session on Learning To Listen To Stop Male Suicide the email us a StopMaleSuicide@gmail.com.

Flickr David Goehring


Throughout 2016 we’ll be sharing a whole series of articles and useful content related to listening in general (and listening to men specifically) and in the meantime here are some quotes about the power of listening to inspire you:

“If we try to listen we find it extraordinarily difficult, because we are always projecting our opinions and ideas, our prejudices, our background, our inclinations, our impulses; when they dominate, we hardly listen at all to what is being said.” Jiddu Krishnamurti

“We tend to indulge in faux listening, real listening is an extraordinary thing, literally extra-ordinary, it’s not usual. For the real listener, the person speaking is the only thing than matters in the world at that moment.” Julian Treasure

“In our everyday lives there is so much focus placed on the other side of the equation , talking……. we actually forget the other 50 percent of the equation, the power that lies in listening.” Jason Chare 

“We really underestimate the power of human presence and that presence can be expressed through listening.” Frank Ostaseski 

“Listening may be the golden key that opens the door to human relationships. We often take listening for granted as something easy and natural. Real listening, genuine listening, is something that needs to be learned and practice often every day.” William Ury

“Listening is an activity. It’s not passive, hearing is passive, listening is making meaning from sound, it’s deciding what I’m going to pay attention to and what it means to me.” Julian Treasure

“Listening also has survival value, if you think back when we were sitting around the fire, the more closely we could listen to the experience of others—how to hunt dangerous animals, which plants were safe to eat—the odds of our survival were greatly increased.” Leon Berg

“Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relive the suffering of the other person, you can call it compassionate listening.” Thich Nhat Hanh

“There’s an inverse relationship between emotion and listening, which is to say, if you’re upset and I really listen to you’ll get less upset. If somebody’s not listening, somebody can get more and more and more upset. At the same time, if you’re really, really upset it’s hard to listen.” Julian Treasure

“For the time being…just listen with compassion and help [the person you are listening to’ to suffer less and one hour like that can bring transformation and healing.” Thich Nhat Hanh

“I live to listen. I believe that every human being needs to listen consciously in order to live fully. Connected in space and in time to the physical world around us, connected in understanding to each other, not to mention spiritually connected because every spiritual path I know of has listening and contemplation at its heart.” Julian Treasure

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